Teamwork makes the dream work…Who’s on your A-Team?

A business, a dream, an empire is not solely built by one person. One person may have their name on a brand given his idea they shared with the world, but it takes a teamwork to make a dream work. Sorry Drake, but I beg to differ in reference to your success, that it was “All you”. Somewhere someone along the way contributed something in your life to help get you resources you needed to reach your goal. These are the people we call to be on our A-team when trying to make our dreams come into fruition. These are the people we should keep around and associate  with most often. So who is on your A-team?

As a single mother, I look at my parents as being on my A team. I am traveling a lot of the time due to work and school so my daughter’s grandparents step in to help with her homework, to care for her while I’m not home, and provide the support she and I both need so that my daughter will not go lacking for anything.

As a student I consider my peers with the same concentration to be on my A-team. One person may not understand a concept that another does, but with us working together, we’re able to put our minds to work and piece it all together. We’re all trying to attain the same goal so we’re working on one accord when it comes to studying and gaining the understanding and knowledge we need to make the grade.

As a woman of faith I consider my leaders and covenant family as my A-team. I believe in the power of prayer and if you didn’t know before there are ups and downs when you’re working your way up. In the difficult times if I get weak or consider giving up, I can count on positive messages and divine insight to help strengthen my spirit to continue to carry the load.

Recently in a positive message from Bishop Charles Mellette, in reference to a man needing to get to The Source, the only way he got there was because he had 4 “crazy friends” that literally “tore the roof off” to get him to The Source. I realize the word “friend” is used very loosely these days, but your friends should be apart of your A-team. These are friends that believe in your vision, support you within their means, as simple as encouraging you along the way, and will do all they can to push you towards that dream.

Lastly, your business partners are on your A-team. Investors not only contribute financially, but they contribute knowledge, their skills, and ideas, and their time to help make the dream work.

These were all people I considered to be on my A-team because of the goal that I am trying to reach.

When considering who’s on your A-team, keep in mind the goal you’re trying to attain.

Someone who has a fitness goal will have other peers with the same goal on their A-team to encourage them to not quit, trainers or nutritionist to help point you in the right direction as what to eat or what exercises should be done for a specific result. Maybe you have an idea for a book, do you have a friend that you can run your ideas by? A teacher or family member than can edit your writing? When you’ve got that vision in mind one of the first steps should be building an A-team. Start today!

 

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Job Work, Kid’s Homework, MY Homework…OH MY!!!

Yes it does sound as overwhelming as Dorothy probably felt in an unknown land following a yellow brick road back home, but this is where a lot of people find themselves.  Maybe you’ve launched a new business, or made the decision to go back to college, which by the way could seem like munchkin land because the majority of the students are about 10 years younger than you are, but the point is, it’s a foreign place.

The only way you’re going to get to your goal is to follow the process set before you that leads to it.

So after day 1 your 3 professors hit you with the assignments due by Friday, your kid’s spelling and math test are Friday which you must prepare for Monday-Thursday, you have timelines to meet for your business by Friday, and quotas to meet at your job by Friday.

Sympathizing with Dorothy yet?

The thing is it CAN be done. There are super moms and super dads and super yous who are doing it daily, so the question is, “How are they making it do what it do?” (Crespective defines super yous as persons who are not  parents, but are equally stretched)

They are…

Prioritizing.

You must put 100% in getting your business of the ground, succeeding in your classes, raising your children, and pulling your load at the office. All of which are very high in importance so that leaves pretty little time for the family cookout this Sunday, or Girls night out this Saturday. It’s ok to say no to others while you’re bettering yourself. They’ll understand, and if they don’t…well that’s another blog post.

Sacrificing.

I like to take weekend trips usually out of the state, but that is about 3-6 hours driving time one way and usually a dent in my pocketbook. In order to stay head-above-water, try sacrificing leisurely activities and dedicate that time to studying  or creating business plans and save your money, cause you’ll need all you have for both endeavors.

Disciplined.

I’ve gotten so sleepy at night trying to finish an assignment that I felt like crying, but I didn’t stop.  After nodding about 10 times in a row and typing liiik e t hiiis………….it seemed like I snapped wide awake and received a burst of energy to finish out of nowhere. Be disciplined enough to finish what you start no matter how tired you are.

Internally Motivated.

Let your push be greater upon yourself than the pushing of those that believe in you. When you’re doing something because you want it and not solely because other people want it for you, then you will always have that drive to reach that goal.

You see very little Yellow Brick Roads, which means these are roads less traveled, which further implies only certain people are set apart to do it…Is it you?

Ready, Set, Succeed!

Success to me is putting your divine purpose to work in service to another and profiting while doing it.

The reason why success is so difficult for some to define, recognize, and even to obtain is because it takes work. I would sing “I just want to be successful” in my most sincere Trey Songz voice, but I was not doing the work that was required to reach success. Success demands leadership characteristics. We all like to think of ourselves as a leader, but when we continuously follow the same habits we’ve always followed that has kept us stagnant at a mediocre level, we’re displaying follower characteristics. So why is it that we’re afraid of making that step to change?

1. We’re afraid of success. Can I keep it up? Will I fail? The answer to that challenge is to build your self-esteem and confidence.

At a leadership conference Brand consultant, Shirelle Latortue from wWb stated, ” You can not brand anything you’re not confident in.”

You are your brand, be confident!

2.  We have more excuses not to than will power to make that next step.  “I’m a single mom with no help.” “I don’t have time.”

Fear and excuses are like leaches. They suck the desire to seize opportunity out of you.

Life coach, Dr. Stacia Pierce, stated, “Excuses are dream delayers.”

I’m on this growth journey just like you, so I’m challenging all of you to address whatever idea you have that keep pressing on your heart today! You have pen, paper, a dream and a vision to carry it out which are more powerful start up tools than the money you don’t have. Start today writing down your ideas and add to it more and more everyday. The more attention you give to it, the more it will grow. Soon you will start to see opportunities arise, just don’t hesitate to grasp it. 

Must see video: Success, How bad do you want it?

Positivity, try some. It does things for you!

I had a moment where I started to feel down on myself. Not because things were not happening for me, but because things were not happening the way I had originally planned them to happen. I’m convinced the reason we start to down ourselves is because we’re comparing our success stories, or have a lack of confidence in our own abilities. The moment was very brief though because

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I refuse to live a defeated life and have a defeated mentality.” 

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I have great encouraging people around me to help keep me focused.”

After prayer and listening to some inspirational tunes I was back on my 1-2 step ready to conquer the world again. It’s amazing what a little positivity can do to you.

Yep, Positivity does something to you!

Think about Pharrell William’s song Happy, a triple platinum hit that went viral across the world because of it’s positive message. When you listen you can’t help but shake a little, or clap, or tap your feet and nod to it. The song became an epidemic. Why? Because the positivity that flowed from the hit awakened gratefulness and hope out of you. Well at least it did for me. Here are a few other positive magnets I draw from…

1. A positive message gives me hope for my future. As a result every morning I’m expecting a great thing to stem from that positive message I heard.

  • Expectations fuels hope. Expect the Great!

2. Positive movers and shakers around me inspires me to get to moving myself.

  • Your great idea will never be any use to anyone else unless you share it.

3. Positive people lifts spirits, create beautiful smiles, and ultimately change lives.

  •  Someone at some point has done it for you. Are you doing your part?

Whatever you need to do to get that extra boost whenever you’re lacking (& it happens to us all), find your positive go-to book, blog, or person and re-up on your daily dose of goodness. That’s right, make it a habit because we deserve to live our very best everyday!

Need help finding a little positivity? Don’t worry, I gotcha!

Kristen Mellette’s blog Fashion by Faith

Joel Osteen’s Today’s Word daily emails

Got Runner’s itch?

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So you’ve made up in your mind that now is the time, I’m going to start walking/jogging. I’m getting fit, enjoying nature and about a mile through the trail you start getting an itching sensation. You think oh something has bit me and you start scratching and you can’t stop. The itching becomes so annoying and after you’ve just about scratched all of the skin off of your body you just stop walking and go home. So much for day 1 on the trail or day 1 back on the trail. I know these two words doesn’t even seem like they belong in the same sentence, but it certainly happens and can be very annoying. Don’t worry, you’re not allergic to the outdoors (or maybe you are), but it’s more than likely runner’s itch. After a hiatus from the walking trail I’ve experienced runner’s itch myself the first time back. 

There are two reasons that I’ve found why this happens. One being when you start walking the blood flow through your blood vessels and capillaries increase in order to get to the muscles. Someone’s capillaries that’s used to living a sedentary lifestyle have collapsed slightly (which is normal) because they do not require a lot of blood flow, so in order to accommodate the increased blood flow during exercising, the capillaries expand. During that process adjacent nerves are sparked sending signals to the brain that say’s scratch me! To prevent this from happening keep those capillaries open by staying active. Don’t quit!

 

Some believe runner’s itch is an histamine response to prevent the body from going into exhaustion during the exercise and suggest you take an antihistamine before workout.

Good news is after about the first day or two it usually doesn’t happen again or is much less of a problem. Run on!!

“And then it came to me like an epiphany…”

I went out of town to handle some business and decided to make the trip worth while by stopping at one of my favorite restaurants. I ordered my entree and thought to myself, “I might as well get my favorite appetizer.” Then did some more thinking and thought, “Why not finish it off with this tasty desert?” So the total bill came up to around $30. I knew I probably shouldn’t have stopped there because when you’re establishing a budget you get those “Don’t buy that” inklings in your head. Nevertheless in that moment of satisfying my temporary pleasure, I set my monthly budget for food to the side. Of course after I was good and full I thought about what I could have done with that money that would’ve went a lot farther.

So I screwed my Focus Light back on and tried to make right the wrong in not thinking for the future. The next day I decided to go grocery shopping and plan my meals for the week. I went to Wally World and picked up items for breakfast, lunch, dinner and a box of snacks for me and my daughter.  At the checkout counter the total bill came to around $32. That’s approximately $6.40 a day for two people for five days. I felt like such a winner! A person that orders out for lunch during the week is looking to spend $6-$8 a day, $30-$40 a week on themselves alone depending on where they eat. That’s not including breakfast, snacks, or dinner.

And then it came to me like an epiphany…

Wow! Imagine how much money I can save  by grocery shopping and planning ahead. I mean I’ve heard other people saying it but to actually experience it for yourself and seeing that extra cash at the end of the month is liberating. There are many reasons why we would choose fast food over cooking. Fast food is easier. Cooking is too time consuming, but the decision to carve out time to shop for wholesome, healthier foods holds much more weight (not in calories) than being able to grab a quick hot meal from the burger place. Think about it, anything/results worth having takes work and that’s no different than cooking. So to make cooking a lot easier, plan ahead.

Ok you want your daily servings of vegetables, fruit, and protein right?

  • Buy a variety of each for every day of the week.
  • Get a magnet calendar to place on your fridge or use your phone to plan your meal each day of the week.
  • If your meal will take an hour or more to cook, season it the night before or place it in the slow cooker.
  • If it’s something that can be whipped up in 30 minutes, do it the morning of before work or school and just heat it up when you get home.
  • Or if you’re really pressed for time during the week, cook your meals for each day on Sunday and freeze the rest until you’re ready to eat it.

Fast Food Lunch Meal

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5 days of Home cooked Meals receipt and calories

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Planning ahead saves time for the working parents and for those trying to lose weight or maintain healthy eating habits, this is a great discipline for controlling your diet. It’s a win win situation.

To calculate the calories in your home cooked meal visit My Fitness Pal.

The Dating…Game?

datingWhen you’re ready to experience something solid is dating really still considered a game? So you haven’t dated in a while because you decided to wait for a connection with someone to happen naturally. Now that the connection has been made when you were least expecting it, you’re totally unprepared. You’re hesitant about the first date, all of these questions start popping up in your head, what should I wear, where should we go, what should I ask him, how much do I tell her? Then your stomach starts knotting up and your palms start sweating. Are you nervous about whether he or she will like you? Why?

Crespective’s rule of thumb when it comes to dating is to just be your Authentic self.  Don’t boast about being a top notch fitness fanatic when the only time you run is to the bathroom every day. It’s cool that you want to put your best foot forward because you’re promoting what you have to offer and you should stand secure in that, but you don’t want to be so desperate to impress your date that you put out a false sense of your real self. Let’s say boasting and half-truths won your date over and 3 months down the line he/she is wondering why they never see you going to the gym, or lifting any weights, or why you’re 100 pounds overweight, yeah it all caught up with you, now what? If you don’t feel confident that your authentic self will intrigue your date, then it’s time to up your self-esteem. Or if you’re truly not doing anything intriguing, try setting some goals for yourself and plans to achieve them. What if your “best you” is not enough for your date, well then move on. Don’t be discouraged. They are not the one for you and they’re most certainly not the last person on earth to date. Even if that person turn out not to be right for you, they may end up being a good friend or a great networking contact.

Secondly, what’s with all of the rules? How many times should we communicate before we go on our first date? How long should I wait to call or text the next day? Really? Are we in high school or are we adults who know what we want and don’t want already? If you want to talk, call. If you’re not feeling them, say so. As long as you Respect yourself and be clear about your expectations, through conversation, you’ll have an inkling of whether that person are meeting those expectations, are moving in the direction of meeting them, or going in the opposite direction of what you expect in a mate. It’s important not to keep a murky gray area in the communication. No one wants to be left feeling unsure or led on. Besides, more weight will be lifted off of your shoulders and your conscious clean when you clear the air of any misconceptions.

Lastly, Confidence is key. Are you secure in who you are, what you’ve been through, and where you’re going? If you are, be proud, stand tall, wear it on your chest. People are attracted to someone who stands sure of themselves. Maybe your date has all of these accolades and accomplishments, and you’ve hit a bump in your road, have a “not so pretty” past, but are on the road to recovery. If you’re setting goals for yourself and progressively knocking them down one by one then you’re a winner. But you have to wear it confidently. How do you expect someone else to believe in what you bring to the table if you don’t believe enough in yourself? Never let anyone make you feel inferior because your success story does not match up to their expectations of what success is. You’re more than what you’ve been through and even stronger than you think because you overcame. You are valuable, act like it

Be authentic, respect yourself, have confidence, and date on!