Success to me is putting your divine purpose to work in service to another and profiting while doing it.
The reason why success is so difficult for some to define, recognize, and even to obtain is because it takes work. I would sing “I just want to be successful” in my most sincere Trey Songz voice, but I was not doing the work that was required to reach success. Success demands leadership characteristics. We all like to think of ourselves as a leader, but when we continuously follow the same habits we’ve always followed that has kept us stagnant at a mediocre level, we’re displaying follower characteristics. So why is it that we’re afraid of making that step to change?
1. We’re afraid of success. Can I keep it up? Will I fail? The answer to that challenge is to build your self-esteem and confidence.
At a leadership conference Brand consultant, Shirelle Latortue from wWb stated, ” You can not brand anything you’re not confident in.”
You are your brand, be confident!
2. We have more excuses not to than will power to make that next step. “I’m a single mom with no help.” “I don’t have time.”
Fear and excuses are like leaches. They suck the desire to seize opportunity out of you.
Life coach, Dr. Stacia Pierce, stated, “Excuses are dream delayers.”
I’m on this growth journey just like you, so I’m challenging all of you to address whatever idea you have that keep pressing on your heart today! You have pen, paper, a dream and a vision to carry it out which are more powerful start up tools than the money you don’t have. Start today writing down your ideas and add to it more and more everyday. The more attention you give to it, the more it will grow. Soon you will start to see opportunities arise, just don’t hesitate to grasp it.
Must see video: Success, How bad do you want it?
I had a moment where I started to feel down on myself. Not because things were not happening for me, but because things were not happening the way I had originally planned them to happen. I’m convinced the reason we start to down ourselves is because we’re comparing our success stories, or have a lack of confidence in our own abilities. The moment was very brief though because
I refuse to live a defeated life and have a defeated mentality.”
I have great encouraging people around me to help keep me focused.”
After prayer and listening to some inspirational tunes I was back on my 1-2 step ready to conquer the world again. It’s amazing what a little positivity can do to you.
Yep, Positivity does something to you!
Think about Pharrell William’s song Happy, a triple platinum hit that went viral across the world because of it’s positive message. When you listen you can’t help but shake a little, or clap, or tap your feet and nod to it. The song became an epidemic. Why? Because the positivity that flowed from the hit awakened gratefulness and hope out of you. Well at least it did for me. Here are a few other positive magnets I draw from…
1. A positive message gives me hope for my future. As a result every morning I’m expecting a great thing to stem from that positive message I heard.
Expectations fuels hope. Expect the Great!
2. Positive movers and shakers around me inspires me to get to moving myself.
Your great idea will never be any use to anyone else unless you share it.
3. Positive people lifts spirits, create beautiful smiles, and ultimately change lives.
Someone at some point has done it for you. Are you doing your part?
Whatever you need to do to get that extra boost whenever you’re lacking (& it happens to us all), find your positive go-to book, blog, or person and re-up on your daily dose of goodness. That’s right, make it a habit because we deserve to live our very best everyday!
Need help finding a little positivity? Don’t worry, I gotcha!
Kristen Mellette’s blog Fashion by Faith
Joel Osteen’s Today’s Word daily emails
I went out of town to handle some business and decided to make the trip worth while by stopping at one of my favorite restaurants. I ordered my entree and thought to myself, “I might as well get my favorite appetizer.” Then did some more thinking and thought, “Why not finish it off with this tasty desert?” So the total bill came up to around $30. I knew I probably shouldn’t have stopped there because when you’re establishing a budget you get those “Don’t buy that” inklings in your head. Nevertheless in that moment of satisfying my temporary pleasure, I set my monthly budget for food to the side. Of course after I was good and full I thought about what I could have done with that money that would’ve went a lot farther.
So I screwed my Focus Light back on and tried to make right the wrong in not thinking for the future. The next day I decided to go grocery shopping and plan my meals for the week. I went to Wally World and picked up items for breakfast, lunch, dinner and a box of snacks for me and my daughter. At the checkout counter the total bill came to around $32. That’s approximately $6.40 a day for two people for five days. I felt like such a winner! A person that orders out for lunch during the week is looking to spend $6-$8 a day, $30-$40 a week on themselves alone depending on where they eat. That’s not including breakfast, snacks, or dinner.
And then it came to me like an epiphany…
Wow! Imagine how much money I can save by grocery shopping and planning ahead. I mean I’ve heard other people saying it but to actually experience it for yourself and seeing that extra cash at the end of the month is liberating. There are many reasons why we would choose fast food over cooking. Fast food is easier. Cooking is too time consuming, but the decision to carve out time to shop for wholesome, healthier foods holds much more weight (not in calories) than being able to grab a quick hot meal from the burger place. Think about it, anything/results worth having takes work and that’s no different than cooking. So to make cooking a lot easier, plan ahead.
Ok you want your daily servings of vegetables, fruit, and protein right?
- Buy a variety of each for every day of the week.
- Get a magnet calendar to place on your fridge or use your phone to plan your meal each day of the week.
- If your meal will take an hour or more to cook, season it the night before or place it in the slow cooker.
- If it’s something that can be whipped up in 30 minutes, do it the morning of before work or school and just heat it up when you get home.
- Or if you’re really pressed for time during the week, cook your meals for each day on Sunday and freeze the rest until you’re ready to eat it.
Fast Food Lunch Meal
5 days of Home cooked Meals receipt and calories
Planning ahead saves time for the working parents and for those trying to lose weight or maintain healthy eating habits, this is a great discipline for controlling your diet. It’s a win win situation.
To calculate the calories in your home cooked meal visit My Fitness Pal.
When you’re ready to experience something solid is dating really still considered a game? So you haven’t dated in a while because you decided to wait for a connection with someone to happen naturally. Now that the connection has been made when you were least expecting it, you’re totally unprepared. You’re hesitant about the first date, all of these questions start popping up in your head, what should I wear, where should we go, what should I ask him, how much do I tell her? Then your stomach starts knotting up and your palms start sweating. Are you nervous about whether he or she will like you? Why?
Crespective’s rule of thumb when it comes to dating is to just be your Authentic self. Don’t boast about being a top notch fitness fanatic when the only time you run is to the bathroom every day. It’s cool that you want to put your best foot forward because you’re promoting what you have to offer and you should stand secure in that, but you don’t want to be so desperate to impress your date that you put out a false sense of your real self. Let’s say boasting and half-truths won your date over and 3 months down the line he/she is wondering why they never see you going to the gym, or lifting any weights, or why you’re 100 pounds overweight, yeah it all caught up with you, now what? If you don’t feel confident that your authentic self will intrigue your date, then it’s time to up your self-esteem. Or if you’re truly not doing anything intriguing, try setting some goals for yourself and plans to achieve them. What if your “best you” is not enough for your date, well then move on. Don’t be discouraged. They are not the one for you and they’re most certainly not the last person on earth to date. Even if that person turn out not to be right for you, they may end up being a good friend or a great networking contact.
Secondly, what’s with all of the rules? How many times should we communicate before we go on our first date? How long should I wait to call or text the next day? Really? Are we in high school or are we adults who know what we want and don’t want already? If you want to talk, call. If you’re not feeling them, say so. As long as you Respect yourself and be clear about your expectations, through conversation, you’ll have an inkling of whether that person are meeting those expectations, are moving in the direction of meeting them, or going in the opposite direction of what you expect in a mate. It’s important not to keep a murky gray area in the communication. No one wants to be left feeling unsure or led on. Besides, more weight will be lifted off of your shoulders and your conscious clean when you clear the air of any misconceptions.
Lastly, Confidence is key. Are you secure in who you are, what you’ve been through, and where you’re going? If you are, be proud, stand tall, wear it on your chest. People are attracted to someone who stands sure of themselves. Maybe your date has all of these accolades and accomplishments, and you’ve hit a bump in your road, have a “not so pretty” past, but are on the road to recovery. If you’re setting goals for yourself and progressively knocking them down one by one then you’re a winner. But you have to wear it confidently. How do you expect someone else to believe in what you bring to the table if you don’t believe enough in yourself? Never let anyone make you feel inferior because your success story does not match up to their expectations of what success is. You’re more than what you’ve been through and even stronger than you think because you overcame. You are valuable, act like it
Be authentic, respect yourself, have confidence, and date on!